Huge breakthroughs in your life don't always come in the form of a long peaceful yoga retreat.
Sometimes they come in the form of crying on your bathroom floor, wondering where it went wrong and how you got here. Or sometimes they come in the form of a firewalk...
I spent years of my life people pleasing, giving my energy to the wrong people who didn't appreciate me and taking on far too much. It's impossible to give yourself away to other people forever without consequences and eventually my actions caused a breakdown.
Not something I'm massively proud of and not particularly something I want to remember but every cloud...
The general opinion seems to be mental breakdowns don't happen to happy, positive people but it's probably because of these outdated beliefs we feel like we need to put on a brave face when we're really struggling underneath. Mental health isn't selective and unfortunately it does affect happy, positive people.
It took me a long time to recover and I don't think it's something you ever fully get over but holding onto it never did anyone any favours. You can choose to live in a dark place forever or you can pick yourself up off the bathroom floor and pull yourself together in the best way possible for you.
My turnaround started with a firewalk. Go big or go home...
I can't even remember how I found Mindshift Experiences but it was one of the best things that could have happened and I highly recommend to anyone feeling a bit lost.
Before you walk over 100 degree hot coals, you're given a speech and asked to write down goals for yourself to reach in 6 months. Maybe sounds a bit samey to any other coaching session but it's far from anything you've experienced before.
I remember listening to Zoe and Paul talking and thinking this is how I want to make people feel. I want to make people feel empowered to be themselves with no apologies and I made it one of my goals.
I completed the firewalk and finally felt more myself because it was exactly the push I needed to believe in myself again and put my life back together.
Determined to prevent anyone experiencing what I did and on a mission to make people feel appreciated for what they love, I launched Hen-Do with the core value being to create personalised events with no rules. Full freedom to be yourself and celebrate everything you love - something everyone deserves to experience at least once in their lives, if not every day.
So far it's been a great success and I make an effort to advocate for non-toxic positive mental health every day with fun being top of the list.
I'm not saying a breakdown is going to turn your life around and I'm not saying a firewalk will fix all your problems...but if you step outside your comfort zone and start living life for you, you'll realise that you were actually pretty amazing all along, You just needed someone to remind you of your fabulousness.
I speak openly about my experiences because I want to break the stigma that still surrounds having a breakdown. Especially for women in a working environment because we're the ones who feel most judged.
The more we can speak openly about these experiences, the less people will feel they need to hide their true selves away from the world and we can get on with the fun stuff without feeling guilty.
If you do feel like you ever need someone to talk to, message me anytime. I run a mental health support page as well as Hen-Do so I'm here if you need it.
Or if you fancy doing that firewalk, give me a shout for the details!